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“Have Positive Social Relationships”

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As I’ve said a couple times, I work for ECI now.  I should probably do a post explaining ECI and my role before this but this is on my heart.  Monday, I was doing a training about some changes coming to ECI.  We use 3 Global Child Outcomes to help direct our services for kids.  All outcomes we develop must fit into at least one of these categories to help the child as a whole with one of these three things:

  1. Have positive social relationships
  2. Acquire and use knowledge and skills
  3. Take appropriate action to meet needs

They are very broad categories and it’s fairly difficult for me to think of a goal that wouldn’t easily fit into at least one of those categories.

Recently, the federal government has asked the states to come up with a plan to improve their ECIs.  Texas has decided, among other things, to focus on the first outcome a bit more-Have positive social relationships.

As I was listening to the training yesterday, I was reminded how often we take emotional intelligence and social skills for granted.  We find it difficult to teach those skills and assume children just somehow know them.  We get frustrated and forget the child honestly doesn’t know what to do with their emotions yet.  I’ve taught the Emotional Development training a few times now and I know its difficult for some teachers to process.  I’ve worked with families how are so focused on their child meeting physical milestones, they forget they need to meet social/emotional milestones as well.  I understand.  It’s hard to measure emotional milestones.  And we often make two steps forward one step back kind of progress with emotional goals.  Physical goals, and even mental goals, are easier to measure, easier to attain, easier to check off a list.  But emotional goals are actually the biggest indicator of a child’s future success!

We have to remember the whole child-physical, mental, social, emotional, and spiritual development are all important for a well-rounded child and, hopefully, adult.  I love the verse Luke 2:52 “And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature and in favor with God and man” because it tells us Jesus grew in all those areas of development, too. (I talk about this more in Child Development in the Bible)

I’m excited about this push for more awareness of the necessity and importance of emotional intelligence! And I love how simply our global child outcome sums it up “Have positive social relationships.”  Such a simple statement but such a complex concept.

Do you need to learn more about Emotional Development? Or maybe about how ECI works for and with kids that may be at your center?  As always, Contact Me for more information!

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First Training, Completed!

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Well, I intended to write this post on Tuesday, but we had a death in the family and I was gone to the funeral. Even though life was a little crazy there for a few days, I think I remember the training clearly enough to do this! I intend to write these “after-action reports” after each training so that personally, it will help me grow as a trainer and help me remember next time what happened this time.  I’m hoping you will view this as me growing and being open to learning and it will help you know a little more about me and my style as you are deciding to hire me.

Child Development in the Bible, W.E.E. School, 8/23/2013

What went well:
The timing for the first session.
Everyone seemed to understand what I meant, even on the points that were more of an intuitive leap. (At least, no one asked questions or said they didn’t understand when I asked if they needed clarification.)
People participated in both sessions.
Several people said they understood some concepts that were new to them or understood old concepts better. In particular, I got quite a bit  of positive feedback on the point about giving choices.
The video came at a great time to give us a brain break.
My notes and on screen cues were enough to help me explain without reading off the screen/page (except for the few quotes I wanted to read exactly).
People used the handout.
Several people wrote down the address of the Early Childhood NEWS website that I referred them to.
Except for the end of the second session, I was able to consciously slow down and speak at a good rate.

What could go better next time:
In a session with more participants, I need to invite less discussion or move along a little faster. (I had to talk fast to finish the second session!)
I could probably slow down some more sometimes, this is something that is a conscious effort for me! My natural speaking rate is much faster than most people’s, so I have to force myself to slow down when I train. I’ve gotten quite good at this, and it helps that I can go faster when I want to rush through my introduction or need to get done quickly.
I noticed in the video of the training (I recorded it so that I can put some clips on here soon!) that I often had my paper notes in front of my body when I was speaking. I needed them to read some quotes and see some reminders, not to mention I had to improvise where I stood to present, but I need to learn to hold my notes better when I have them.
If this training could be a little longer, I’d love to do some interactive activities instead of so much talking. I did ask for and get participation but people were a little restless, especially in the second session.
I was able to ask for or come up with examples for each point, but I may need to jot down some examples to jog my memory if I do this again.
The second half of the training is where people really seemed to want the information, so I may need to move through the first half a little quicker and focus more on the second half.

All in all, I think the training went really well.  I was able to get some feedback and about half the participants filled out evaluations, helping me know what to do different next time!  Thanks to W.E.E. School for asking me to come train.  If you’d like for me to train for you, please visit the All About Me page to find out more, the Rates page, peruse my Portfolio, and then Contact me!

Branalyn

Proverbs 17:17a

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When I was a three year old lead teacher, I had a brilliant (if I do say so myself!) idea. My classroom was utterly blank with gray walls. I did several things to brighten it up, but the best thing I put on the walls was a verse.

A friend loves at all times.
Prov. 17:17a

It was perfect because when we had trouble in our classroom, I could point up to that verse and say “a friend loves at all times.”  Soon, when I was talking to a child about his or her behavior, the child could tell me what the wall said. Eventually, when children were having arguments among themselves or when a child was hurt by another, the children would tell each other “what does the wall say? It says ‘a friend loves at all times!'”

Sometimes, the children would fling out the words in a very unloving manner. And it did disturb me a little that they seemed to think the wall said the verse and not the Bible. I did try to emphasize that it was a Bible verse after that particular incident.

But still amazes me today how that one verse put up on the wall with some pre-cut bulletin board letters and Command strips, purposely a little crooked and wonky so it wouldn’t bother me that I didn’t get it straight, could have such an impact on my discipline.  This is the same class where my friend “Bryan” caused me so much distress.  Looking up at that verse on the wall reminded me to love that little boy, and all the kids, even when I didn’t want to.

Today, I read and Pinned an article about simple rules and natural and logical consequences.  Her simple rule is “love.” She goes on to say “love up and love out.”  I interpret that as a take on the greatest commandments.  (Side note I find interesting: I went to a Christian college and Old and New Testament were required classes.  For some reason, I’d never thought of this before the professor pointed it out, but the first half of the commandments are basically summed up in “Love God” and the second half in “Love Others.”  I feel like it shouldn’t have been as much of a light bulb moment as it was!)  I think if I had to boil my rules down, I’d say “Love God.  Love Others.”  Its simple, it is the heart of what Jesus says in Matthew 22, its the heart of the Ten Commandments.  It also reminds me of something we talked about in education classes-have simple, positive, easy rules and not many of them.  The rest may be “procedures” but not rules.

I think, if I currently had a classroom, I’d put “Love God. Love Others.” on my wall.  I might put “A friend loves at all times” up to “proof text” Love Others.”  And maybe something from 1 John or the Matthew text above to “proof text” Love God.  In fact, I may choose to put those up in my house!

Keep in mind that simply putting the verses or ‘rules’ up on the wall doesn’t automatically change the classroom!   You have to incorporate the verses and sayings into your discipline.  You have to talk about them when you aren’t disciplining.  And you have to live them for the children!

Whew!  That was longer than I intended it to be!  Go check out the article I reference above and think of what verses and simple rules you’d like to incorporate into your classroom!

Branalyn

Lessons from Youth Camp

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I wish that this were a funny post about the lessons one can learn at church youth camp, but its not.  I do have a great piece of advice though-if you are going to camp on a college campus and staying in the dorms, there is a good chance there will be laundry facilities so take some detergent and use them!  We came back with no piles of dirty laundry!  It was a stroke of brilliance!

I also had some personal growth and I think my husband, the youth pastor, and the youth came back refreshed and with a new zeal.

But none of that is why I started writing this post.

You see, we took the youth to Super Summer, a camp that neither my husband, the youth, or I had ever been to.  And, unlike most other youth camps, the adults go off and do their own thing while the youth are with “Team Leaders.”  Many youth pastors choose to go as team leaders, but some choose to attend the Leadership Forum.  Having never been and being incapable of going down early to be a Team Leader, my husband chose for the two of us to attend the Leadership Forum. So there we are, at basically a very small training for youth pastors, and what do I start noticing?  Child development themes, of course!

I remember leaning over to my husband at one point and excitedly saying “that’s scaffolding!” The leader was talking about making disciples, using the way Jesus made disciples as an example, and it was very clearly scaffolding.  So I started really paying attention at this point!

I already know about the areas of child development being the same as the areas in which Luke says Jesus grew, now I had scaffolding, and, by the end of the week, I had thought through discipline, modeling, planning, and more!  It was rather a silly revelation, really, because I had already made some of the connections, but suddenly, that light bulb just clicked and I realized how much child development and best practices could be backed up with the Bible!

So, in addition to the Breaking Out of Survival training that I have in the works, I now am planning a Child Development in the Bible training.  Both ideas are still mostly in my head, but as  soon as we are finished with the insanity that is June and July around here, I plan to get these trainings on “paper!”

Also, I took the time today to improve the Back to the Basics page in my Portfolio (I added the words to the pictures if you hadn’t seen it before) and will try to have the other Portfolio pages similarly updated within a week!

Branalyn